Photos: Lee Lay Na
Thanks to the advent of social media, everything that possibly needs to be known about the lives of celebrity couple Kate Pang, Andie Chen and their brood is already out there online for all to scroll through, gawk and pore over. We know about Andie’s allergy problems, Kate’s three-time unexpected pregnancies, and we even learned about the couple’s unsuccessful—and infrequent, according to Kate, in her Toggle Talk interview—bedroom activities.
But how much do we really know about their marriage, how they tolerate each other’s idiosyncrasies and bad sleeping habits? This time, we speak to both Kate and Andie in Toggle’s brand new series, In Bed With, to hear what they (and other celebrity couples) have to “complain” and rat about each other.
From their shocking marriage cum pregnancy announcement three years ago (at the time, the couple’s relationship wasn’t made known to the public) to where they are today with two adorable children, Kate and Andie’s relationship might seem like a fairytale to some. While the two are clearly very much in love, their journey as husband and wife wasn’t as smooth-sailing as one would think: the very first time they met, they didn’t leave the best impression of each other and they still don’t see eye to eye on all matters – especially on their spending habits, now.
Regardless, their marriage has gone from strength to strength and the pair is in it for the long run (long live Kandie!) Read on for the lessons on marriage we learned from Kate and Andie.
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Lesson 1: It’s not always love at first sight
Hailing from Taiwan, Kate was scouted to Singapore and met Andie for the first time at a Fighting Spiders event her manager brought her to. There, the pair was introduced, and Andie’s first words to her took us by surprise: “You should take a plane back to Taiwan as soon as you can.” Ouch.
Thankfully, she didn’t heed his advice and they eventually found love although they didn’t quite hit it off on the right note. The pair has mentioned on previous occasions that they were far from each other’s ideal types and dated others even while they were friends. They only got to know each other better after working on Joys of Life and Break Free together and dated in secret for about a year before walking down the aisle on November 24, 2013.
Lesson learned: Don’t judge a book by its cover and strike out people you don’t immediately see as The One.
Lesson 2: Tough love is real love
A continuous occurrence during the two hours of filming was the constant bickering from this duo. Regardless of whether the cameras were rolling or not, their good-natured ribbing continued and gave off the vibe of them being an old married couple.
Among Andie’s grouses were, “Kate has no sense of romance – she only cares about enjoying her personal space!” letting on that their most romantic date before tying the knot was watching television together at home while digging in to ice cream.
Kate’s retort? “Looking after our children well and making sure that there’s food on the table for you when you get home is the best sort of romance to me,” she declared. The 33-year-old continued that to her, “having time with just the two of us isn’t as important as us spending time altogether as a family.”
They even got physical with each other throughout the shoot and showed no mercy when hitting each other with cushions for a mock pillow fight. Andie’s over-enthusiasm caused him to accidentally poke Kate in the eye, which immediately turned red. Apologising profusely about his mistake, he proceeded to look after her and kept checking on her eye before resuming the shoot, and even in between takes when they had an outfit change.
Lesson learned: It doesn’t need to be all roses and fireworks for a relationship to be romantic; the smallest gestures add up to prove your sincerity and are the foundation to a healthy relationship.
Continued on next page: Kate and Andie tell us about how they manage to spend me-time and how their plans for the future.
Lesson 3: Having me-time leads to better we-time
Having moved into their new home earlier this year, Kate and Andie made sure that there was a room dedicated just for him to have his me-time. The 31-year-old shared, “I need my own space to rest or work when necessary. Sometimes, I work deep into the night and need a good night’s rest after that, because I might have to wake up bright and early the next day and jump back into work.”
The couple also started their own parenting channel, Kandie Network, and Andie often spends hours editing videos to keep the stream updated. With little Aden and Avery around, how do the busy parents find time to recharge?
“Sometimes when I’m busy, I’ll ask Aden, ‘Where’s daddy?’ He’ll perk up and run off to look for Andie, leaving me a bit of space to do my own things,” Kate grinned. “I used to wonder why he’d suddenly come into my room, because he tends to stick to his mom more,” Andie explained. “I only realised what she was doing after some time, but I use the same method to get Aden to go back to her!”
Lesson learned: Being a couple doesn’t mean that you have to spend every second together – sometimes having space for yourself to recharge means that you’ll be able to spend more quality time together in the long run.
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Lesson 4: Honesty is the best policy
“You get what you pay for!” Kate declared after Andie’s protests about her expenditure on household items dragged on for a while. The case in point: Kate purchased a fridge for S$2,400 (“It was cheaper because it was a display set!”), which she shared keeps fruits and vegetables fresh for longer periods of time (“So that you don’t eat food that’s rotten!”).
Meanwhile, Andie groused that her spending habits tend to get a little out of hand, and that she tends to buy higher-end products. Kate, on the other hand, shot back, “One camera lens costs more than the fridge!” but was immediately knocked down by Andie’s explanation that those are purchased for work. We’re not sure if it was just us, or if this conversation seems to be one that has been repeated constantly, and will continue to be a part of their lives for many years to come.
When speaking about their baby daughter, Avery, Andie mused that he hopes for her to be a “strong, independent and beautiful woman when she grows up”, with Kate chiming in that the description seems to fit herself to a tee. Andie’s response of, “Everyone makes mistakes in life” cracked us up and gave rise to another round of cushion fighting, but we’re sure that this couple loves each other, mistakes and all – and most certainly aren’t afraid of ‘fessing up to their huge expenditures (PS: at least they know where the money is going).
Lesson learned: While such disagreements might seem like a bother, being honest about all matters, big and small, ensure that there won’t be a day a sudden secret takes you by surprise and causes an even bigger disturbance.
Lesson 5: Plan for the future
With two kids in the house, Kate and Andie have maintained that baby number three will be put on hold indefinitely. “We can’t afford having another child!” Kate quipped. “Maybe if their daddy made more money, it’ll be a different story,” she continued, gazing meaningfully at Andie.
Jokes aside, the couple have started planning for their children’s futures – although they don’t see eye to eye on how they should go about doing it. Kate’s plan is to buy a house to leave to the children because “property is so expensive in Singapore – we should buy it for them while we still can.”
Meanwhile, Andie believes that his kids should be independent and stable enough to feed themselves when they grow up, but mused that “we should buy insurance for the kids even though it’s expensive, then take it all back when we’re older and use it for ourselves.”
There are plenty of years left to go for the pair to decide on how to go about doing it (their older child, Aden turned two earlier this year), but whatever their decision, it’s never too early to start planning for your golden years.
Lesson learned: Life is unpredictable, and making sure that you have all your bases covered is one sure-fire way to ensure that you have a peace of mind regardless of what happens.
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