27 Jan 2019
Aloysius Pang remembered for his heart of gold
Photos: Facebook/8world News, Artistes' Instagram pages
Fourteen moving eulogies were delivered at a memorial service for Aloysius Pang this afternoon (Jan 27), before his body was taken to Mandai Crematorium following a public wake that drew hundreds. The 28-year-old passed away last Wednesday (Jan 23) after succumbing to his injuries from a reservist accident in New Zealand, and was accorded full military honours.
The actor’s eldest brother, Jefferson Pang, was first to speak at the ceremony, which was held at 82A MacPherson Lane. In his speech, Jefferson spoke about how much Aloysius loved his parents. Their mother was the first to see him in the hospital after the accident and even though he was suffering, he tried to comfort her.
“Aloysius’s kryptonite was our mum’s tears,” said Jefferson. “When mum was crying by his bedside, his first reply was, ‘Mum, don’t cry. If you cry, I will cry too, and I am in a lot of pain. I will recover in a couple of days and take you to a New Zealand casino.’ He really loved mum with all his heart.”
Jefferson also touched on Aloysius’s kind and considerate nature, which showed even from a very young age. “When he was 5, he wanted to feed a stray cat. The cat snatched the food away from him and scratched him, but he was very excited because he felt a sense of achievement that the cat took his food.” He then said that although their father was angry at the cat, Aloysius defended it, saying it was hungry.
A few years later, when Aloysius was 8, Jefferson and the second eldest brother, Kenny, tricked him into watching horror film Bride of Chucky with them. “When the credits started rolling at the end, [Aloysius] suddenly burst out crying,” Jefferson recalled. “It was then that we realised that although he was afraid throughout the whole movie, he tried to contain his emotions because he knew that his brothers were enjoying it.”
Aloysius’s heart of gold also left a mark on those who had the pleasure of working with him in the past. Click through to read some of the touching stories that his fellow actors shared about him…
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Kym, who has played Aloysius’s mother on screen twice, recalled jokingly wondering how a petite person like her could give birth to someone so tall, to which Aloysius said it was still believable because they both had huge eyes. “He was really very sweet,” she said.
She also talked about the time they were both at a gathering and talked all through the night until the sun came up. “I don’t remember what we talked about because I was so drunk, but he was the only one who put up with listening to me until daybreak.”
“Why do I love Aloysius? Because he was very sensible, always very thoughtful, and very dedicated to his friends and his work. Aloysius, I will miss you, your smile, your big eyes, and the gentleness in your voice when you talked.”
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Hong Hui Fang
Hui Fang shared anecdotes from three of her dramas with Aloysius, starting with 2004’s I Love My Home, one of his last shows before taking a break from showbiz in his teens. “He didn’t talk much but I spoke to his mum a lot, and I could tell he was very intelligent and a talented actor.”
Many years later, Aloysius, Hui Fang, and other veteran actors like Chen Shu Cheng, Xiang Yun, Jin Yin Ji, Zhu Hou Ren, and Richard Low travelled to Bintan, Indonesia, to film 2015’s Super Senior, which included many outdoor scenes under the hot sun. “Aloysius went to a shop next to the hotel to buy bottles of aloe vera gel, put them into plastic bags, and hang them on the doors of all our rooms.”
While working on 2015’s Good Luck, Hui Fang shared that Aloysius would buy food for her because it was too troublesome for her to do so in her heavy makeup, which was used to make her appear much older than she really is. “I told him, ‘Aloysius, you are the kind of child that every parent would want.’”
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Calling Aloysius a “caring brother, loving boyfriend, and trusted friend”, Shane looked back on the first time that they met. “He said that he has a ‘wall’ in front of him that might make it hard for others to get close to him, and I said, ‘Give me two weeks and I’ll knock down that wall.’ It took me just a week - that wall wasn’t that hard to break down.”
Shane also admitted that because of Aloysius’s cool and calm exterior, it could sometimes be frustrating to talk to him because it was hard to tell whether he was listening or not. “So whenever he responded to me or gave me some kind of reaction, I would feel good because this smart person understood what I was saying, so that’s why I loved talking to him,” he said.
He ended his eulogy by saying that Aloysius, as a very logical and positive person, would not want everyone to be sad. “I hope we can all be strong for him because if he’s watching us from heaven, he wouldn’t want people to cry for him.”
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Felicia, who worked with Aloysius in his very last drama From Beijing to Moscow, had many touching stories about her co-star, whom she called “one of the most compassionate people” that she’s ever known. “He always took time to stop and care for someone, even if that person could never give him anything in return.”
For example, she recalled the time he bought “eight to 10 sets” of portable fans for some of the cast and crew members of long-form drama Life - Fear Not, because he had noticed that they were perspiring in the hot sun. She then learned that Aloysius would set aside 10 per cent of his salary every month to thank and bless the production staff of each drama he worked in. “He told me that it may not be a lot, but production people work very hard, and that moved me.”
In a more recent memory that happened while filming From Beijing to Moscow in Mongolia just a few months ago, Felicia talked about complimenting Aloysius’s skills during a bowling game together. “He said, ‘No lah, no lah, I’m not that good.’ That was very Aloysius - he never took credit or compliments, and he was very humble and unassuming. He never complained or whined, and never tried to boast about himself. He just wanted to be responsible for his work, and I have a lot to learn from him.”
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The first time Desmond and Aloysius met on set was for 2014’s Against the Tide. Despite barely knowing each other and only sharing a handful of scenes, Desmond was very impressed by Aloysius’s performance. “I went up to him to tell him how talented he was and to keep working hard because he had the potential to become one of the best in Singapore. He was very humble and appreciative.”
A few years later, they reunited once again for Dream Coder. “Aloysius thanked me for what I said to him all those years ago and told me that I was someone very special in his career. That truly warmed my heart and I was glad that he remembered my words.”
Desmond then called Aloysius’s death “a great loss to the local media industry”, and compared his early departure to that of acting greats like Bruce Lee, Heath Ledger, and James Dean. “In my opinion, Aloysius is among the ranks of the legends that left us with great performances and a legacy that will inspire the younger generations.”
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Carrie and Aloysius have worked together so many times (five times in the last three years, she stated) and have such good chemistry that she said they “didn’t need to say anything” in order to understand each other while filming.
“The last time I worked with him was for My Friends from Afar, where we played aliens,” she said. “I told him, ‘You don’t need to act because you are already an alien.’ He had a very unusual way of thinking, so I liked to listen to him talk.”
She shared another story from their days of filming nurse drama You Can Be an Angel 2, which was shot in a real hospital. “Aloysius would buy drinks and talk to the special needs children every day. I will never be able to forget their expressions whenever they saw him going towards them. He also took very good care of everyone on set, from his co-stars to the crew to extras with no lines, and I hope we can all be as kind as he was to everyone else.”
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Xu Bin was the last to deliver his eulogy, which he did so on behalf of the entire NoonTalk Media family. “Aloysius was someone who valued all life,” he said. “He would go to the hospital to donate blood and even considered donating his bone marrow. As long as I asked for help, he would never say no.”
He also spoke of Aloysius’s love for his family. “He was filial and always said that he doesn’t want his parents to suffer [because of him]. He looked up to his brothers and would always tell me about them. At NoonTalk, he was a role model to us all from the day that the company was launched.”
Choking back tears, Xu Bin then thanked their boss and mentor Dasmond Koh for everything that he has done for him and Aloysius.